It’s nice if we have just one person in our lives who can be there for us in our time of sadness, illness, loss, separation… We all want and need that friend! We also want to be considered that one.
But if you’re not able to be that person – because of time and space; cultural, professional, school rivalries or other distances, don’t underestimate your value!
Real friends are many, have a purpose and fill voids unimaginable.
Real friends are:
- support unconditionally
- patient… but impatiently waiting for things to return to normal
- warm, yet sometimes come across as emotionally disconnected
- hopeful… present when needed
- those who feel left out, forgotten and invisible – but know they’re not
- genuine… they show up in other ways and meet hidden needs that no one else seems capable of meeting
- able to take themselves out of the equation, momentarily, and put the wants and needs of their friends above their own
- thoughtful… they respect the fact that friends don’t want to be seen at their worst – but they know how to show up by phone, text, cards and handwritten notes via snail mail, Skype, FaceTime, FaceBook, and through likes/follows and shares.
© CJ Spencer, 2016